Keep them then, if you can,they might be better off with you.At least with you there seems to be a solid "base"
Yes it will be heart breaking,but their hearts are already breaking,but they have you.
As hard as it maybe, don't be angry ,don't be mad,just be there.
If mum wants to f
k off for the weekend on some whim,let her,don't be mad (even though you want to scream at her in her face) Just be there and be the solid base.
Kids need stability,after stability comes guidance.You're it.
Just give it your best shot man,don't let your anger at their mum come out.
It's parenting man,f
k yeah it's hard work.f
k her and do your best for the kids.
- I do know it's easier said than done
Edit to add:
There seems to be so many f
ked up relationships these days,what the f
k is going on ?
Do people just get tired and start f
king other people or what ?
I wouldn't consider myself old at 36,not married but might as well be (long term 14 yr relationship with a 12 yr old lad now)but it seems like the generation below me is like right f
k it,had enough of you I'm going to shag your best mate..and the whole thing just gets mental kids or not.
I don't lack commitment in a 14 yr relationship,it just costs a lot of dollar these days to get hitched(my better half will agree with that) We had a bad patch,a really bad patch.Splitting up bad patch,but both of our concerns were more focused on our son and how it would affect him.
We separated for about 4 weeks and I had our son at the weekends.
Every single lonely day of that separation did nothing but draw us closer,and as stick your fingers down your throat as that sounds.It's true.
I was kicking about in a 3 bed semi on my own after work with no-one to talk to.
Yes I went out on the piss with mates,but I still went home to a empty house.
Having our son at the weekends was great,we slotted back into our PS3 games but I also had someone to talk to in the house,even if it was primary school babble.
Handover on sunday afternoon (worked sun-thurs nights) was always difficult.
A)I missed my better half
B)Once our son was gone I had an empty house again.
Tell you what,that s
t hits you hard.
We worked it all out and still going strong,if not stronger under the same roof.
Sorry got off topic.
It's all about give and take to be fair,but never tolerate taking the piss,and in no circumstances accept upsetting kids.Which brings us back to stability.
Just do the right thing for you and your kids mate,thats all you can do,and all you can do.